Sometimes the real causes of your anger might be staring straight into your face every moment of your wake up time.
As much as you hate to admit it, you are not satisfied with your current state of affairs and you know it is time to make new changes.
Living in a state of prolonged anger is not healthy and can lead to a variety of mental and physical issues. This can include stress, heart attacks, anxiety and depression. Worse still, you are not the only one suffering from it, but your family members, friends and loved ones are also being negatively affected.
Are you and your spouse having issues?
This is often a root cause of anger in couples. If you find that you tend to fight or argue at night when discussing almost any issue, then try moving your discussion times to the morning because that’s a time when most people are more refreshed, positive and clear-headed.
If problems are just not getting resolved after multiple times of attempts and real effort, then it may be time to face the cold hard truth that the relationship just isn’t working anymore (or you have chosen the wrong relationship to enter into).
Maybe a change in environment will solve most problems. But it can also be time to put an end to the relationship. Living in a toxic relationship is unhealthy, unfulfilling, soul-killing to both of you.
Your anger may stem from having a huge mortgage.
It may be better to think about cutting the luxurious lifestyle you guys have accustomed to, moving to a smaller home, or getting rid of certain possessions that are burdening your freedom. Alternatively, consider moving to a different city where housing prices are cheaper.
Sometimes, you may hate the fact that certain things your children are doing are making you boil!
For example, their messy rooms may sometimes drive you crazy every time you walk by them. Instead of letting it get to you, try closing the door for a moment and teaching your kids to take responsibility of their hygiene and orders, instead of exploding your anger and frustrations on your kids.
Another common lifestyle issue that piss people off is job related stress that you bring back to home.
Imagine that you’ve worked all day and you have to come home late to a busy house. The minute you walk through the front door, your kids bombard you with requests and then there is a dinner waiting to be cooked.
Try this solution: Tell your kids that the first 15 minutes when you come home is yours.
You are not to be bothered unless it is for a total emergency. Such 15 minutes of buffer allows you to gather your thoughts in order, take some deep breathes, make a tea and just regroup after the stresses of work.
Take a look at your lifestyle and see if you can identify what is triggering your anger. Then look for ways to simplify it, can you get help with making dinner or is it time to sell your home and move to a new location?
Identify the root causes of you stress and anger and be creative about devising an effective solution to tackle it. Good luck!