Marriage is a faithful commitment for a lifetime towards your partner whom you have chosen because of love. It is the union of two special yet, totally different and unique individuals. You need to understand that being a man you have different needs, wants, outlook in life, principles, and lifestyles from the woman you are marrying or married with. The same is true with the woman – your needs, wants, principles may be totally different, but as soon as you stepped into the cage of marriage the two shall become one flesh.
Try to observe couples today and compare it to marriages 20, 30, or 50 years ago. Why are there many divorce cases this time than the past? Sadly, every year the divorce rate keeps on increasing. How can you make your marriage work and last for a lifetime? True love is one of the ingredients of a successful marriage. Without it, the relationship won’t be lasting nor happy and peaceful. Neither could it resists temptations or stand firm against trials and tribulations. With it there is patience, kindness, gentleness, meekness, understanding, care, concern, generosity, sense of responsibility and respect.
A husband should love his wife so that the wife will be submissive and respectful to the husband. When you love your spouse it means including his/her weaknesses and shortcomings. Consideration towards each other. You have to understand that you’re not married to a perfect husband or wife. Every moment, human as you are, you are always bound to committing mistakes. As you stay together you will discover new and maybe undesirable things from your partner which were not known to you before but be considerate. You are peculiar from each other. Remember the principle of individualism where no two individuals are exactly alike. Give – and – take should be exercised so that there will be lesser misunderstandings.
Forgiveness is a by – product of true love. Avoid repeating or nagging your spouse because of the past mistake. Raise up your partner where he/she falls. Move on and be positive towards the future. In this case, assurance for true repentance is hundred percent.
Cool down as water when the other is angry as a blazing fire. It will only worsen the situation when both of you are on top of your anger and you insist on discussing things. Instead of solving the problem you will only worsen the chaotic situation. Remind yourself that it isn’t the end of the world yet. Never resort to drugs, alcohol, nor sleep with another man/woman to satisfy your anger. Go back to the time when both of you decided to give yourself in the sacred matrimony of marriage. Rekindle that love that you have inside. It may have been rusted by time and season but, never neglect nor take it for granted.
Satisfy your partner sexually. In most broken marriages it boils down to sexual dissatisfaction because either one of them are not doing their responsibility. This is the reason why either spouse is easily tempted to infidelity. Most men get married for sexual gratification and fulfillment therefore, any woman who desires to have a lasting and fulfilling married life should be able to apply this principle by heart.
You may be able to follow three or four among the factors mentioned but it determines how well your relationship will turn out in the future with how much you have done to make your relationship worth keeping and fulfilling.
Do all these and be a model to your children and for the next generation to come.